When life sideswipes you — and you can’t fix it.

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This was me today, sitting still, with undone tasks and unanswered emails waiting, and choosing not to fight the moment. A year ago, I would’ve called it procrastination. Today, I recognize it for what it is: acceptance.

Radical acceptance doesn’t always look like a big “aha” moment. Sometimes it’s a quiet pause, a breath, a decision to stop resisting reality even when we don’t like it. And lately, I’ve needed a lot of that.

WTH — I was on a roll.

✅ Newsletter gaining traction — check.

✅ Hired an administrative assistant — check.

✅ Fine-tuning groups and digital products — check.

And then, out of nowhere, two weeks ago, life said: Nope, not yet.

An administrative error completely disrupted my client work and income overnight. No warning. No control on my end. For a day or two, I was deep in my feelings (in my best Cardi B voice).

The truth? It was painful. And I spent an entire day fighting against reality.

✨ Painful, unfair, hurtful things will happen to us.

Even if it’s not your fault, if it affects you, it becomes your problem to solve.

I caught myself doing all the things we all do when life sideswipes us:

• Replaying the tape: “If only I had done XYZ differently…”

• The “shoulds”: “This shouldn’t have happened. They should’ve handled it better.”

• Comparison spirals: “Why me and not them?”

• Delaying action: waiting for it to feel fair before moving forward.

But eventually, I realized: this is happening. And I had to accept that it is.

🛠️ This week’s tool: Radical Acceptance-If could only teach one tool, this would be it!

Radical acceptance is choosing to accept reality as it is, not what we wish it would be. It doesn’t mean we approve of it or even like it. It just means we stop fighting with “what is” so we can use our energy to move forward.

There’s a difference between pain and suffering:

• Pain happens to us.

• Suffering is what we create when we fight against reality.

Here are a few coping statements that helped me (and might help you too):

• “This is the reality, even if I don’t like it.”

• “Fighting reality only makes me suffer more.”

• “I can’t change what happened, but I can choose my next step.”

• “I don’t have to like this, but I can accept it.”

• “It is what it is. Now, what do I need in this moment?”

Looking back now, I still don’t love what happened. But I’m not emotionally suffering while I figure out what’s next. And that, to me, is progress.

💭 Journal Prompt:

What’s one situation you’ve been fighting against that you could practice accepting — just for today?

🤍 Gentle reminder:

If you’re in your own version of a curveball right now, you don’t need all the answers to breathe again. Just starting with acceptance — not approval, not agreement, just acceptance — is enough.

By the fire pit tonight, candle burning, I keep reminding myself: peace comes from not fighting what is. I hope you carry a little of that peace with you this week, too.

Until next time,

Moya

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