🪞 Last week, we talked about what to do when life sideswipes you — how sometimes the only peace comes from radical acceptance.

But here’s the thing about acceptance: it doesn’t mean silence.

Once the shock wears off, there’s another layer — the truth sitting in your chest that still needs a voice.

That’s what this week is about.

Because radical acceptance doesn’t mean rolling over.

It doesn’t mean letting people walk all over you or swallowing what hurts to keep the peace.

It means seeing a person or situation as it is — without trying to change, fix, or rescue it.

It’s saying, “This is where things are right now… and I can still choose how I respond.”

And sometimes, that response is speaking up.

Sometimes, it’s saying no.

Sometimes, it’s choosing rest instead of pretending.

🧘🏽‍♀️ ^{Permission to Crash Out}

Sometimes you don’t need another coping skill, you need permission to crash.

Not the kind of crash where you cuss everyone out, ghost everyone, eat cereal for dinner, and spiral on your couch for days.

I’m talking about a healthy crash — the kind where you stop performing “strong” and let your body, your boundaries, and your truth breathe again.

Because being the strong one 24/7? Truly ghetto behavior. 10/10 would not recommend. 😂

A healthy crash looks like:

✨ Speaking up for yourself, even if your voice shakes.

    If you can’t say it to someone’s face, write it down exactly how you feel. No spell check. No filter. Just truth.

✨ Saying no. No, I’m not doing that. Why? Because I don’t freaking want to.

    You don’t need to explain yourself to people who never ask how you’re really doing.

✨ Skipping small talk with Suzy at school pick-up because, respectfully, you don’t like Suzy (I hope there are no Suzy’s in this community😇.

    Declining the playdate. Ignoring the group chat. Choosing quiet over pretending.

A healthy crash is honesty with yourself.

It’s giving your body permission to stop holding everything in.

🌬️ When Silence Becomes Stress

Here’s what most of us don’t realize:

Anxiety and unspoken feelings are best friends.

When we don’t express what’s really going on, the body keeps the score.

📊 One survey found 51% of people say poor communication increases their daily stress,

and another showed 80% of U.S. employees feel anxiety because of unclear communication.

Even in our personal lives, it’s the same story.

That conversation you avoid? It doesn’t disappear.

It just moves inside your chest — turning into tight shoulders, racing thoughts, and restless sleep.

So when I say crash out, what I really mean is: stop bottling up the truth.

Let yourself release it — in words, in tears, in stillness — before your body has to do it for you.

💡Micro-Reset: “Set It Down”

When you feel that swirl of emotions building — frustration, sadness, anger — pause.

1️⃣ Name what’s here.

 “I’m overwhelmed.” “I’m tired.” “I’m irritated.”

2️⃣ Notice where you feel it.

 Chest? Throat? Stomach? Just observe.

3️⃣ Ask: If this feeling could talk, what would it say?

 “I’m tired of being strong.” “I need help.”

4️⃣ Ask what it needs.

 A break? A walk? A real conversation?

5️⃣ Exhale and set it down beside you.

 You’re not ignoring it — just giving your nervous system permission to rest for a moment.

Even thirty seconds of truth can bring more calm than hours of silence.

🔥By the Fire Pit

Maybe this week, instead of pushing through, you practice the healthy crash, the kind that looks like truth, rest, and no’s that protect your peace. You don’t have to earn rest by breaking down.

You can choose it before the collapse. If this one hit home, please reply and tell me what a healthy crash-out looks like for you this week.

Until Next Time

Moya